Bollywood superstar couple Rajesh Khanna and Dimple Kapadia got married in 1973, but their marriage lasted only 8 years. Actress Dimple Kapadia had said in an interview that during her marriage with Rajesh Khanna, Dimple gave her 100% to meet his expectations, but still she never received even two words of appreciation.
Rajesh Khanna, one of the most popular stars of Bollywood in the 60s and 70s, married Dimple when she was only 16 years old. There was a gap of about 15 years between the two. They separated in the early 80s after the birth of their daughters Twinkle and Rinke Khanna. Although Rajesh Khanna and Dimple never got divorced.
It is often seen in relationships that after some time of marriage, partners are not able to give equal importance, time and dedication to each other. There can be many reasons behind this, such as difference in age, difference in thoughts, work busyness etc. In such a situation, couples forget to appreciate each other's things, forget to show love and support to each other, or sometimes get bored of each other, which has a negative impact on the relationship.
so today relationship In this column we will talk about how to learn to value your partner in a relationship. You will also know that-
American author and relationship coach Harville Hendrix has written a book – 'Getting the Love You Want.' This book talks about ways to reduce distance in relationships, correct mistakes and strengthen relationships. Harvil Hendrix cites his experiences and studies at many places in the book.
The suggestions given in the following article are based on his book.
Taking your partner for granted ruins your relationship After some time in relationships, people start taking each other for granted and this can happen for many reasons. 'Taken for granted' means underestimating any thing or person or thinking that we will always have that thing or person. For example, when we take our partner for granted, we think that he or she is mine and will always be with us.
It is very important to value each other As easy as it is to enter a relationship, it is not as easy to maintain it. When we enter into a relationship, there are many difficulties and ups and downs. Due to which maintaining relationships seems difficult. Love and respect are the foundation of a strong relationship, but it is very important to respect each other's things.
There is a book by world renowned psychotherapist John Gottman, '7 Principles that Make Marriage Work.' In this book the author has given 7 important principles for a successful married life. Like how couples can make their relationships stronger. For this, love, sympathy, understanding, better communication and dedication are necessary in relationships.
The relationship between those who value each other's thoughts becomes stronger. Be it a love marriage or an arranged marriage, it is important to take care of the needs of the partner in both. At the same time, ideas will also have to be given equal importance. When you give importance to each other's ideas, it shows that you respect each other. Giving importance to ideas improves communication. Then you understand what your partner says without saying anything.
According to a study published in Science Direct, praising each other, understanding each other and giving importance to each other's thoughts can make the relationship between husband and wife stronger. Couples who have these two habits have very few negative experiences in their relationships. They mostly live happy and satisfied lives.
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