Just imagine, it is Sunday and you feel like going to the theater and watching a movie. You ask your friend to go with you. But he refuses, saying, 'I don't feel like it today, we will go another time.'
You might wonder what's so strange about this? The strange thing is that last week when your friend wanted to go to the mall, even though he was not in the mood, You went with him because you didn't want to upset your friend. Last weekend you were arranging a house shifting for your friend, but due to many problems of your own There was work left.
This means that you are available to your friend's every need and desire, but he or she is not. Do you find this touching you too? If yes then you are becoming a victim of manipulation.
aje' rileshneshpatiIn this column we will talk about manipulation in friendship. How do you know if you are being manipulated in friendship? You will also know that-
What is manipulation?
Manipulation is an English word, which means controlling others for your benefit. However, it happens that by manipulating others we can get what we want and our We can overcome our interests, but it is also very dangerous.
Psychologist George H. Green and Caroline Cotter write in their book 'Stop Being Manipulated' that a person who When manipulation is done, it has a very bad effect on one's mental health. But at the same time, manipulating others is equally dangerous to mental health.
How to recognize signs of manipulation in friendship Many times we get so engrossed in friendship that we do not realize that we have been manipulated. Redhead replied. A friend may manipulate you into doing things with you, forcing you to agree to his wishes. Can control you.
Gaslighting can lead to discord in friendships
Psychoanalyst and writer Dr. Robin Stern has written a book on manipulation, 'The Gaslight Effect.' In this he explains how to recognize hidden manipulation. How to avoid coming under his control. First of all, know what gaslighting is in any relationship or friendship.
What is gaslighting? Gaslighting does not mean using a gaslighter or turning on a light. What it actually means is, 'to manipulate someone, to change his mind.' Make him believe things that are not true. The term was first used by the English playwright and novelist Patrick Hamilton in his British Did the thriller play 'Gas Light'. After this, a film was also made on it in 1944, in which it was shown how the husband He manipulates his wife to get rid of her. He speaks many lies to her and raises questions on her mental health.
Learn about gaslighting and its symptoms in the following tips-
According to a 2020 study by the National Library of Medicine, if we don't maintain healthy boundaries in relationships, If we become victims of abuse and manipulation, it can have a negative impact on our physical and mental health. Get it.
How to say 'no' in friendship How to behave when someone manipulates you
Many times some things seem bad to us, but it does not explain how to oppose that thing. Either we bear everything silently, remain angry inside or one day suddenly become very angry. Jeezy.
Dr. Zafar Khan says that both these behaviors are not healthy. Neither is it appropriate to tolerate nor to remain silent. We must set healthy boundaries. For this we must have proper language. How it will be, understand from some examples given below-
If you do not like someone's behavior or feel that you are being manipulated, then remain silent. Instead of staying put, getting angry, raising your voice, getting scared or nervous, say this.
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