'How can he do this, he must have done it for his own selfishness', 'He should not have married this girl', 'I don't think he will ever learn', we hear such comments every day. Do you hear that for someone else? This is called 'judging', which is done by other people or sometimes even by our own people.
Big celebrities become victims of this every day. Recently, actress Shibani Dandekare spoke in a podcast about how she faced people's judgments regarding her relationship with Farhan Akhtar. She was called a 'gold digger' and was labeled as 'Love Jihad' for her marriage with the actor.
Every day many people are facing such comments in their life, which have a bad effect on their heart and mind. It is very important to control this. So, today relationship In this column we will talk about how much impact external judgment has on people and how we can combat it.
What is 'judging' someone? When people express their opinions, thoughts and judgments about other people, it is called 'judgment' in English. People often make external judgments through comments, criticism or reactions on any social media platform. To know this better, see the graphic below-
easy to judge others It is easy to judge, speak ill or criticize others. Anyone can do this work, but if someone judges us then we feel bad. The truth is that, when we are judged, we do not benefit. By speaking badly about someone or criticizing them, we forget to love and appreciate them.
Judging someone can have a negative impact Every person wants that people like him, accept him and respect him. But when you are judged, not liked, not understood, not respected, it can damage your self-esteem and confidence. It affects both our heart and mind and if it creates stress then many mental problems can arise.
afraid of judgment Writer Naval Faghire has written a book on this subject – 'Fear of Judgment'. In this book he has given 8 ways to deal with criticism and evaluation. He suggests stopping worrying about what people think. Furthermore, he says in his book that, the best way to live life is not to take criticism from others personally.
How to deal with external judgment? It is very important to remove the fear of being repaid by others. Often we think about what people would say if I did this or keep thinking that they talked bad about me, criticized my work, said this about my character etc. It is important for us to control it to ensure that it does not affect our mind. When we remove our fear of being judged, what people say has no effect on us. How to do this, see the suggestion given by the counselor in the graphic given below-
are you afraid of criticism There are some of us who are afraid of what people will say, they might criticize me. Do you also pay attention to others' thoughts instead of thinking about yourself and always worry about others' opinions? In this context, ask yourself what those who are criticizing you believe about you and how much importance they hold in your life. You may get your answer, but that's easier said than done, so remember these three points in the tips below:
Graphics Source: NavJivanIndia | VaskarAssets
