Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect in this world. We all sometimes, knowingly or unknowingly, hurt someone's heart by something we say. Making a mistake is not bad, not admitting it after making a mistake is bad. If you apologize or forgive them then the mistakes will not be so big. But as easy as it is to say or write 'I'm sorry', it is not easy to feel it from the heart and apologize.
today's relationship In this column we will try to find answers to some such questions.
Why is it difficult to apologize? If it were so easy, everyone in the world would accept their mistakes and apologize and there would be no conflict.
The social science study in this regard was published in the research journal 'Sage'. According to this study, some of the main reasons for people not apologizing are as follows-
Why is it important to apologize? If you realize your mistake and accept it and say that it will not happen again, then this is forgiveness. Apologizing or giving an apology shows that you regret what you did or said. You know it was wrong and you will try harder to prevent it from happening again in the future.
Not apologizing when you are wrong can be detrimental to personal and professional relationships. This can also lead to anger, resentment and hostility, which can increase over time.
True forgiveness means learning from mistakes Apologizing and accepting mistakes made in a relationship strengthens your relationship. However, it is not as easy as people think because your ego or nature does not allow you to do it.
A sincere apology is one that expresses genuine sympathy, condolences, and regret, and a promise to learn from the mistake. In other words, you really need to admit that you did something wrong that you are sorry about.
When did you apologize?
Knowing when to apologize is as important as knowing how to apologize. Understand it from the instructions given below.
While a sincere apology can help repair a relationship, people often don't want to do it. It is very difficult to accept that we were wrong. Understand in the graphic given below what things need to be kept in mind while apologizing.
it's never too late to apologize If people leave your life before you get a chance to apologize, or the situation gets so bad that apologizing doesn't seem possible, remind yourself that it's never too late to apologize. Even if you think the idea of compromise is frustrating, it's still worth a try. Suppressing emotions is not good, especially if you have a desire to make things right.
If you feel like you should give up trying to rebuild a relationship with someone, think about what it would be like to live with regret. If you have hurt someone you love (whether that love is romantic or not), you should never give up.
Why is forgiveness always expected from the younger ones? We have seen from our childhood that the younger ones always ask for forgiveness from the elders. Society also expects the same. Have you ever heard a parent apologizing to their children or teachers to their students or a boss to his employees? No.
Even apologizing becomes difficult because there is a power equation associated with it. We need to rise above this mentality and change ourselves. If a mistake is made, parents should also apologize to their children and elders should apologize to their children so that children can understand the power of forgiveness.
Children should be taught that it has nothing to do with age, power, position, ego and pride. Whenever we make a mistake, we should apologize very simply and politely.
And finally the most important thing. After all, why is apologizing good for our physical and mental health? What changes in us by apologizing?
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