Relationships give us love, support and happiness. But it is also very delicate. It is very important to preserve it. However, sometimes due to small things, relationships get torn and are on the verge of breaking. There can be many reasons for this. Like rivalry, jealousy, distance and some bad habits.
Famous American author Dr. Gerry Chapman has written a book on human relationships, which is included in the New York Times best seller list. The name of this book is 'Five Love Languages: The Secret to a Love That Lasts'. In this book I have told about the five languages of love. These include expressing love and appreciation through positive words, doing something for your partner that makes him or her happy, giving gifts, spending quality time together, and physical touch. Dr. According to Gary Chapman's research, 85% of relationships fail due to lack of communication.
so today relationship In this column, we will talk about some behavioral patterns that cause relationships to deteriorate. We will also know how to avoid this?
First of all, let us graphically know what are the behaviors that affect our relationship with our partner.
lack of communication in relationship Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. We have been hearing this for a long time. But still many people do not give priority to talking to their partner. In this age of digital devices, people are always lost in their mobile phones. Because of this, real life relationships are left behind. In such a situation, misunderstandings may arise in the couple's relationship. However, even in such a situation, communication plays an important role. If we do not talk to our spouse, problems will continue and resentment will increase.
Famous American psychologist, professor and author Dr. John M. Gottman has conducted research on approximately 40,000 couples over the last 30 years. After this research he said that poor communication is the main reason for breakups.
lack of empathy in relationship We are right, our friends are wrong; We do everything in a relationship and get nothing in return. It is very easy to realize this. But when we cannot understand our partner's point of view, they feel that they are not being heard. This increases the communication gap and creates a gap in relationships. In such a situation, it is necessary to show sympathy towards the partner. Lack of empathy in a relationship can affect the mental health and happiness of both individuals.
always criticizing partner We despise our own criticism. But still sometimes we cannot stop ourselves from doing this with our partner. Keep in mind that criticism never motivates a person to change. Instead it makes them angry and upset. If you find yourself overly critical, think deeply about where it comes from. Try to control it slowly.
show off It is absolutely not appropriate to show off in a relationship. If we feel the need for it, we should ask ourselves, why so? Do you think your partner might be angry with you? Are you trying to present yourself a certain way or are you afraid that your real self isn't that good? Always present yourself to your partner as you are.
lack of respect in relationship It is very important to respect each other in a relationship. Where there is no respect, a relationship cannot last long. If you can't respect your partner then you should ask yourself why. Do you think he is stupid? If that's really the case then why are you with him? Making fun of your partner and making fun of him works as poison in relationships. This is why you do not see any positive qualities in your partner.
being insecure in a relationship Insecurity in a relationship means that we are unsure about our relationships. It is the belief that we are not the best for our partner. They make you feel uneasy. Some of its characteristics are-
In such a situation, when your partner says or does something that hurts, then it is important to know why he or she is saying or doing this. If you don't keep your insecurities in check, it can really ruin a relationship. So check yourself and see where your emotions are really coming from.
Expect everything from your partner Partners in relationships are often dependent on each other. They expect their partner to fulfill all their needs. However, sometimes it hurts when this expectation is not fulfilled. So, consider your partner's feelings, accept them, and put the needs of the relationship at the top.
avoid talking about important topics It is not that happy couples never fight with each other. They fight among themselves but their fight is not dirty. In fact discussion can be healthy. This is an opportunity to grow as a couple, but only if you use it to reach solutions. If you have a problem, ignoring it won't change anything. This will only increase resentment between you. This will spoil your relationship. So, definitely talk to each other about your problems.
make some changes in yourself for a happy relationship To have a happy relationship with our partner, it is necessary to make some changes in ourselves. For this see the graphic below-
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