3 hours agoAuthor: Shelly Acharya
Global News Daily
Small arguments are common in any special relationship. But when these arguments increase, they take a bigger form. Then getting angry and then pacifying, not eating in anger, cajoling, giving gifts to remove resentment, this continues. All this happens in relationships. But some fights are such that if not resolved, they become a sore.
Therefore, it is very important to resolve them in time. Bollywood actress Kriti Sanon also believes the same. In a recent interview, when Kriti was asked if she apologizes first when she has a fight with someone, she replied, “It depends. If I feel that I am not wrong then I will not do so. But I would definitely want to resolve the fight. I cannot leave things unresolved like this.''
We all want to resolve a fight, but we don't know how. Bowing down, apologizing, being humble, accepting your mistake, all these are also arts that need to be learned.
Life coach and well-known author Rosalie Puman has written a book on this subject – 'The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution.' In this book, she writes about how resolving conflicts in relationships, arguments and fights is also an art.
So today'Relationship' In this column, we will talk about how to resolve unresolved issues and misunderstandings when there is a rift in relationships.
When do fights increase in relationships?
There is no couple in this world who does not fight sometimes. Fights are very common and natural. Fights increase when the complications of the previous altercation are not resolved. As a result, even a small matter drags on for a long time, sometimes leading to serious consequences. That is why it is important to forget the said thing and forgive immediately.
People express their pain and frustration in different ways. Some people react aggressively while others avoid confrontation. Some may even become overly accommodating and try to please the other person while ignoring their own interests.
There can be differences in relationships due to these reasons-
Money: Spend, save, manage and share.
Children: When should they happen, how to nurture and discipline them.
Love fights: You don't love me, you don't give me time, etc.
Household chores: Who will take responsibility, who will do the household chores.
Time spent together: Spending too little time together or too much time together because of work or social commitments.
Communication: Misunderstanding in conversation.
Promoting stress
It is normal for a husband and wife not to talk to each other after a fight. But it is important to resolve this quickly because not talking in anger or staying hungry can also create problems in married life.
When ego is above relationship
Ego is the biggest reason for spoiling a relationship. The battle of ego never ends. So keep in mind that where there is love, we do not become small by apologizing. Forgiveness ends every fight.
Excessive interference in each other's privacy
Despite being together, every person has his own personal space and respect for that space is very important. If one partner starts interfering in every small or big work of the other, then this can also become the reason for fights and distances.
disrespect each other
Fights increase when there is no respect in the relationship. Before love, it is more important to respect each other in the relationship. Each other should be given equal respect. Never criticize your partner in front of a third person.
Trust and time are both necessary in relationships
Having trust in relationships, taking time out for each other and understanding your partner are some of the things that can help you strengthen your relationship.
How to resolve a dispute with your partner-
love is bigger than ego
Always remember that your relationship is bigger than your ego. Love is more valuable than ego. So in the midst of any argument or fight, never forget the love because of which you both are together.
Communication among themselves is essential
Misunderstandings, fights and disputes between two people only happen when communication between them ends in the real sense. When they stop listening and understanding each other. So fight, argue, but never stop talking. Communication should continue.
The purpose of an argument is not to win, but to resolve a conflict
Do you know when we feel the most pain even after winning in life? When that victory is achieved by defeating someone dear to us. Even after winning in arguments and fights with the one we love, we still feel defeated in the end. And this is such an important thing that we should never forget it.
The purpose of fighting with your loved ones is not to win in the end, but to clear the misunderstandings and feel the love again, which is the strongest foundation of your relationship.
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