It is said that where there is love there is also struggle. But apologizing after a conflict is an important aspect of any healthy relationship. He shows humility, sympathy and willingness to take responsibility for one's mistakes. However, saying 'sorry' every time is also not good for any relationship. Sometimes not apologizing also strengthens the relationship.
so today relationship In this column we will talk about such situations in which one should not say sorry to the partner. We'll also learn how apologizing too often can be detrimental to a relationship.
When should you not say sorry to your partner? It is natural for a couple to fight in love. But if only one partner has to apologize every time, it can spoil the relationship. Sometimes it is necessary not to say sorry to strengthen relationships or to prove one's point. The graphic below shows some situations when you should not apologize to your spouse.
Now let us talk about the above mentioned issues in detail.
When it's not your fault Some people in relationships often seek their partner's forgiveness, even though they know they are right. They know that they have done nothing wrong, yet they do this to save their relationship. But no one should feel as if it is only their responsibility to apologize. To save the relationship, there should be equal participation between both the partners, only then the relationship becomes strong.
when you tell the truth Many people in relationships apologize to their partner even when they tell some facts. They do this to maintain balance and harmony in relationships. However, if this becomes a habit, it can be harmful to the relationship in the long run.
when your point of view is different In a relationship, partners may agree or disagree on something. There should be mutual understanding between the two regarding this. If you disagree with your partner about something and you have to apologize before saying it, then it is not a sign of a healthy relationship. This shows that you are doing this to avoid any discord in the relationship.
On taking time for self-care Many times people want to take time for themselves. But due to some reasons he cannot do this and keeps cursing himself for it. Whenever he does this, he feels that he is doing wrong to his partner. For this he also seeks forgiveness from his partner.
However, self-care is not bad for relationships. It does not have any negative impact on relationships. Every person has the right to take time for himself. There is no need to feel regret or guilt for this.
Dr., who has been working as a couple and family therapist in Israel for 15 years. Ansel Romanelli has given an excellent definition of forgiveness.
When you stand up for your rights Many times a person feels the need to raise his voice in a relationship. Standing up for your rights is a good thing. But there should be no need to apologize for this.
When you tell your partner that he is wrong If your partner is doing something wrong and you want to tell him, there is no need to apologize. There should be no hesitation in this.
When you don't want to listen to your partner There are many occasions when you do not agree with your partner. Suppose your partner wants to go to a party, but you don't feel like going there at all. In such a situation, you can refuse it clearly. There is no need to say sorry for this.
when expressing your feelings There is no need to say sorry whenever you express your feelings to your partner. Saying sorry in this situation means that you have lost your value.
Disadvantages of apologizing too much People who apologize too much to their partner feel inferior. It seems that he is a burden on them or that he has no existence of his own. Constantly apologizing can lead to feelings of guilt. to see other disadvantages of apologizing too much.
Under what circumstances is it appropriate to apologize? This seems like a very simple question. But apologizing is necessary only when you have done something wrong. Not when he gets angry at you without any reason. Not even when you want to take the blame to resolve the dispute.
However, when you have done something wrong and hurt someone, you should definitely move forward and apologize. It is a form of responsibility. This is a way of saying that you are taking responsibility. Accepting their pain and promising not to do so in future.
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